There are times when people find it difficult to determine if they are in love or in lust. Love is something that you feel at the pit of your stomach, so you will know for sure if you are in love. Lusting after someone is much like finding a fake friend. They only want certain things from you but after that they are done with you. This is how you know for sure if you love someone or you are simply lusting after them.
Love or Lust
If you are out there looking for your soulmate, chances are you are going to bump into the occasional person that you lust after. Even though this is perfectly normal, it is important to remember what the difference is between love and lust.
Love — real love — is about commitment and communication. These two important components lead to stability within a relationship. Of course, fire can be part of the equation, but when there’s lots of drama, chaos and more emotional gut blows than butterflies, you’re looking at a lustful situation.
C and I were not friends. For a long time, we called each other “best friend,” but the truth was I was in lust, and he was just waiting for something else, something, to use his words, better. Despite knowing that, the lust kept me coming back for more.
Fake Friends and Real Friends
A really best friend will encourage you with anything that you try! Whether it be taking up square dancing, or changing your career path, a real friend will be there every step of the way. We all have those dorky things we do on a regular basis. A real friend loves those things! In fact, if they are a true real friend they just might join in with you!
Sometimes you royally screw up. With fake friends, a mistake can cost you a friendship. Real friends will know that sometimes you’ll mess up. They will forgive you because they value your friendship more than your (temporary) mistake.
It isn’t a matter of who is on the other side, what the issue is, or if you’re in the wrong – a real friend will stand by you no matter what. They always are on your side and will fight for you with no questions asked. That’s just what a real friend does!
We all have little quirks about ourselves (IE: we are cranky in the morning, we get flirtatious when drunk, we eat too many dinner rolls, etc.) that only our true friends know about. No one else knows you quite like your real friends. The fact that they notice those little quirks about you is a good sign!